“It’s You When I Look in the Mirror” – Sunday, June 17, 2012, Horizon UU Church, Carrollton, TX
Here is this morning’s sermon, delivered at Horizon UU Church in Carrollton, TX. Below you can find the reading I used this morning from Michael Lewis’ book Home Game and the video for today’s sermon anthem, U2’s Sometimes You Can’t Make it on Your Own (we had a technology issue during the service so we never got to play this video).
Excerpt from Home Game by Michael Lewis, author of Moneyball and Liar’s Poker.
When I became a father I really had only one role model: my own father. He bequeathed to me an attitude to the job. But the job had changed. I was equipped to observe, with detached amusement and good cheer, my children being raised. But a capacity for detached amusement was no longer a job qualification. The glory days were over.
Obviously, we’re in the midst of some long unhappy transition between the model of fatherhood as practiced by my father and some ideal model, approved by all, to be practiced with ease by the perfect fathers of the future. But for now there’s an unsettling absence of universal, or even local, standards of behavior. Within a few miles of my house I can find perfectly sane men and women who regard me as a Neanderthal who should do more to help my poor wife with the kids, and just shut up about it. But I can also find other perfectly sane men and women who view me as a Truly Modern Man and marvel aloud at my ability to be both breadwinner and domestic dervish—doer of an approximately 31.5 per¬cent of all parenting. The absence of standards is the social equivalent of the absence of an acknowledged fair price for a good in a marketplace. At best, it leads to haggling; at worst, to market failure.